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Whatever You Do, Do What You Said You Were Going To Do

Aug 19

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This might be the most important rule of all if you don’t want to lose your friends. I must say this is one of my weak points. Whenever I say Yes I’ll Be There, there’s 70% chance I’ll change my mind. That’s why I always say Yeah Maybe I’ll Be There. But people don’t like to hear that either.

There’s 2 things people really hate: undecisive people and cancelled meetings.

But what the hell are you supposed to do if you like your freedom?

Maybe the best solution of all: gather as much information as you need to make a good decision, say you’ll decide at a specific time, decide at that time and whatever you do, DO NOT change your mind after that.

Just don’t fuck up your relations by not keeping your promises. People won’t believe you anymore, they start losing their trust in you. Initially, when you just meet someone new, they will usually give you a lot of trust. Whenever you do something good, you get some extra. But when you do bad things or fuck things up, your container of trust will get empty real soon.

People’s goodwill, people’s trust in you is one of the most important things in life. Guard it with all your might :)

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Arrogance Is What Makes People Want To Kill You

Apr 5

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This is common sense, but it’s easy to forget when you’re in narcissistic mode (you know, that day of the year when you are awesome, when all of humanity but you is complete crap, when you love yourself to death, when you say to yourself in the mirror God I’m Gorgeous.)

There are four possible ways of behaving towards other people: as if you both suck, as if you are the best and the other guy sucks, as if you are the loser and everyone else is great and as if everyone (including you) is great.

Obviously, the last option is the best. “I Am Great, But Everyone Else Is Too” is the best way to relate to other people.

Recently I met a great guy in Serbia. He was the organiser of a big event, and he had a LOT of responsibilities. He looked very tough. In fact, he looked like the kind of wanker that wouldn’t want to have anything to do with anyone who’s less cool than him. In reality though, he was one of the greatest guys I had ever met. He talked to EVERYONE. He had this weird, unexpected sensitive side, too. He LIKED everyone. He was important, but he made you feel important, too.

These are the kind of people we like.

Try to be one of them.

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Do Not Criticize

Mar 2

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After spending your whole life around people, interacting with them, you’d think you’d get how and why they behave the way they do, right?

Turns out, most of us still don’t.

When you criticize someone, you will not get through to them. They will NOT change their attitude. They will not even admit that they did something wrong. IF anything, they will start defending themselves, they will start seeking excuses.

You cannot change people’s behaviour by criticizing them.

People DO however respond to praise.

When you praise them and give them a reward when they do well, they WILL change their behaviour.

The key: never criticize for bad behaviour, always praise for good behaviour.

It’s that simple.

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People Think I’m Weird

Nov 20

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And you know what? I fucking LOVE it!

Being an extreme version of myself, bringing out all my quirks…

It’s my best decision yet.

Since I started a blog about personal development, since I publicly speak about every weird thing I did, since I joined Toastmasters and started telling everyone about it, …

People think I’m a weirdo.

But they like me. And they think I’m funny.

Be different. Stand out. Even if that means people might not like you.

if you have the guts to be hated, people will LOVE you.

In a country/environment where people start laughing when I tell them I blog about personal growth, where people ask me ‘what the hell is it and why would anyone need it?’ if I tell them about Toastmasters, where my friends make fun of me because I tell them I will make a full income online, …

They think I’m crazy. And yet they’re intrigued.

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Social Proof #2

Nov 15

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Ever thought about this?

If YOU tell me that you’re CEO of a multi million dollar company, I will be WAY less impressed than if SOMEONE ELSE tells me you are a CEO of a multi million dollar company.

HUH? It’s exactly the same information, right?!

Yeah, SOCIAL PROOF at work.

If you tell people about your accomplishments, they see it as bragging and/or lying.

If someone else tells it, people unconsciously think “WOW, why the hell does this guy tell all that about this other guy? This other guy must be seriously high up the ladder!!”

THIS IS HOW THE HUMAN BRAIN WORKS.

So, make sure people are constantly talking about you in a good way.

You’ll get skyrocketed to the top of the social ladder.

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Popularity Rule #1

Nov 13

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PEOPLE DON’T LIKE PEOPLE WHO DON’T LIKE THEM.

This is pretty much the basic rule of popularity.

Make people feel loved and popular. And they will adore you. They will want to spend more time with you, because you give them that special feeling.

Give people value and they’ll come crawling back for more.

There aren’t a lot of people who provide REAL value, so if you can be one of them, that would be absolutely amazing.

Think a moment about all the people who give you that warm, fuzzy feeling.

And pass it on to others :)

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Reciprocity 101

Nov 13

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HELP PEOPLE OUT BEFORE THEY ASK YOU.

HELP OTHER PEOPLE FIRST BEFORE ASKING THEM FOR HELP.

ALWAYS ASK THE QUESTION ‘WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU’ INSTEAD OF ‘WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME’.

People tend to like you if you do.

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Diplomacy Is For Losers

Nov 13

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IN HUMOUR AND IN MARKETING, GREY DOES NOT EXIST, ONLY BLACK AND WHITE.

And that counts for blogging too. If you blog about another website, say Steve Pavlina, don’t ramble on about what’s good and what’s bad about him, just tell us that you love/hate the guy.

Strong, well-founded arguments are great. IN YOUR HEAD.

If you’re a rational guy, that’s awesome. Just don’t show it in your language. Think rational, then speak in full confidence and tell the world in black/white terms what your conclusion is.

If you’re a blogger, reread your latest blog post and count the maybe’s. If you have more than two, please let your dog change your password.

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Popularity is Underrated

Nov 13

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Hey, did you know that everyone wants to be liked? That that’s just in our nature?

We want to be the boss of the group. And if we don’ want to be the boss, at least we want to fit in.

Because otherwise we get eaten by predators.

So why keep denying that wanting to be popular is a bad thing? That one way or another, wanting to be popular is ugly and selfish.

Can’t you be just as nice and helpful to everyone whilst being popular? :)

Decently-talented-working-okay-hard people with lots of friends and connections are generally way more successful in life than extremely-gifted-working-my-ass-off people with no friends whatsoever.

It’s up to you.

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