Posts Tagged how to become popular

Arrogance Is What Makes People Want To Kill You

This is common sense, but it’s easy to forget when you’re in narcissistic mode (you know, that day of the year when you are awesome, when all of humanity but you is complete crap, when you love yourself to death, when you say to yourself in the mirror God I’m Gorgeous.)

There are four possible ways of behaving towards other people: as if you both suck, as if you are the best and the other guy sucks, as if you are the loser and everyone else is great and as if everyone (including you) is great.

Obviously, the last option is the best. “I Am Great, But Everyone Else Is Too” is the best way to relate to other people.

Recently I met a great guy in Serbia. He was the organiser of a big event, and he had a LOT of responsibilities. He looked very tough. In fact, he looked like the kind of wanker that wouldn’t want to have anything to do with anyone who’s less cool than him. In reality though, he was one of the greatest guys I had ever met. He talked to EVERYONE. He had this weird, unexpected sensitive side, too. He LIKED everyone. He was important, but he made you feel important, too.

These are the kind of people we like.

Try to be one of them.

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Do Not Criticize

After spending your whole life around people, interacting with them, you’d think you’d get how and why they behave the way they do, right?

Turns out, most of us still don’t.

When you criticize someone, you will not get through to them. They will NOT change their attitude. They will not even admit that they did something wrong. IF anything, they will start defending themselves, they will start seeking excuses.

You cannot change people’s behaviour by criticizing them.

People DO however respond to praise.

When you praise them and give them a reward when they do well, they WILL change their behaviour.

The key: never criticize for bad behaviour, always praise for good behaviour.

It’s that simple.

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Popularity Rule #1

PEOPLE DON’T LIKE PEOPLE WHO DON’T LIKE THEM.

This is pretty much the basic rule of popularity.

Make people feel loved and popular. And they will adore you. They will want to spend more time with you, because you give them that special feeling.

Give people value and they’ll come crawling back for more.

There aren’t a lot of people who provide REAL value, so if you can be one of them, that would be absolutely amazing.

Think a moment about all the people who give you that warm, fuzzy feeling.

And pass it on to others :)

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Popularity is Underrated

Hey, did you know that everyone wants to be liked? That that’s just in our nature?

We want to be the boss of the group. And if we don’ want to be the boss, at least we want to fit in.

Because otherwise we get eaten by predators.

So why keep denying that wanting to be popular is a bad thing? That one way or another, wanting to be popular is ugly and selfish.

Can’t you be just as nice and helpful to everyone whilst being popular? :)

Decently-talented-working-okay-hard people with lots of friends and connections are generally way more successful in life than extremely-gifted-working-my-ass-off people with no friends whatsoever.

It’s up to you.

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